Wednesday, May 20, 2009

Opinions Needed

I have a Facebook issue that I need some help solving.
Lets back up a bit first though….

In the beginning when I started my FB I was very selective in who I had on my page. It made me realize that I am a private person. Yeah, I know, I have a public blog but I guess I feel protected on here because I keep it mostly anonymous. You guys don’t really ‘know’ me. As time passed on FB I have loosened up a bit. I mean I'm not posting about wild sex parties or anything. Not sure why I don’t want the world to know that I shopped all day on Saturday, who knows....I never claimed to make sense. I look at the people with 200+ friends oddly. (No offense to 200+ friend people) I have a friend who has tons of friends but no one EVER comments on her stuff. That’s just odd to me. Ok, I am getting sidetracked here……the point was the privateness (made up word?)

Now lets skip over to The Husband’s ex. I really don’t talk about her a lot because we don’t have too many issues with her. We HATE that she put the kids in public school and then pulled them right out because someone picked on the oldest daughter. That's a great way to deal with life. *rolling eyes* They are now home schooled and the youngest hates it. She cries for her friends that she met at school. She asks to come live with us so she can go to school with M. I could go on and on about this but I will spare offending any homeschoolers who read my blog. So lets call the ex- BabyMama….just because I like to say it and yes I call her that in real life too. Just not to her face. We are nice to each other and get along fine. We don’t do joint birthdays or hang out together but we are more than civil and accommodating to each other.

Is anyone still reading or have I managed to offend everyone with my views on FB and homeschooling? lol

I'm sure by now you have guessed what my issue is. BabyMama requested that we be friends on FB last night. This made me lose sleep!! She said that she wasn’t sure if it would be weird for me but she adds pics of the kids that she thought I may want to view. She did not request to be friends with The Husband….just me. Whatever. He is never on FB so we would have preferred it have been him. I really don’t know what to do. I don’t want to accept it because I really don’t want her all in our lives. I think there is a fine line in blending families and if you cross it, it could turn ugly. I hate to not accept though because then it will be all weird when I see her and I will feel bad. Ive thought about not accepting and then just not going to any pick-up and drop-offs for awhile. lol, make The Husband deal with it! I am evil.

An example would be……we are going to Hershey Park next weekend. She does know we are going because we had to switch weekends with her due to the concert. The kids know we are going to PA. They get motion sickness from riding the carousel so it really isn’t a place for them. But I'm sure I will be talking about it on FB when I get back because M is going to be soooo excited for her surprise. You get what I mean? Ugh!!


~~Mel~~ said...

You already know my opinion girlie...go with your gut and do what feels right to you. Don't add her because you feel obligated if you'd really rather not have her on your list.

Stupid FB is so complicated sometimes!

Anonymous said...

I have to deal with this too, because of my hubby's ex. She and I get along fine, but having her involved in my personal business is something completely different. It just makes for an awkward situation. BUT, it also makes for an awkward situation, when you're in your shoes. I don't know what to tell you. I would probably accept it, and then my hubs would get pissed, and I'd delete her as a friend. Maybe you could just politely decline? I dunno. But just an FYI, you don't have to be her friend to view her pictures. She can send you the link to the album and you can view them that way. Easy peasy.

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Staci said...

hey girl!!! I feel you! Some people on my FB I hesitated because they are from my MOPS group and somethings I would DIE if they knew.... finally I said oh well they like me or they don't! In your situation, I would NOT approve her... too close for comfort IMO!!

That Girl said...

Mel brought up the idea of using my settings on FB to allow her to see what I want her to see. I just checked it out and I can do that in the privacy area. Im still thinking about it before I accept. everytime I make up my mind.....a bit later someone else says no way. lol

Lisha said...

I like FB for a few reasons but there is a lot I can't stand and your situation is one of them. it seems so middle school that you have to feel bad for not wanting to be her "friend" on FB. It is your choice and if you don't want to then don't. It may rock the boat on your relationship with her. I say no way jose.

missy said...

im a first timer here but.......oh how i feel your pain......same thing here!!!!!
my husband calls her MY ex-wife......her and i do the planning and he likes it that way.....they do not see eye to eye.
so i say no to adding.....we talk enough she does not need to know every move i make!!!!
just my opinion.