Is there a right way to do this? ugh
As you may remember....my mom's birthday was last week. Apparently this made my baby girl anxious. I was so hoping that she would not get my worry gene but I think she already has it. Ive tried to give her all the tools to deal with stuff like this but I guess it just comes natural. So she went to bed only to come into my room 10 mins later crying. Not just tears but belly shaking crying. I asked her what was wrong and she said she didnt know. Thats our famous answer around here. ugh Finally she told me that she was worried about grandma dying. Me, being the psycho that I am, starting thinking OMG she must 'see something' happening. I kept asking her why was she thinking stuff like that...she said it was because of my mom having a birthday and that means shes getting older. Old people die. OMG, at this point I am choking back the tears and trying not to cry. I can not deal with death myself. My dad died 2 weeks after my 17th birthday and I still have a hard time dealing with it.
What do I do? What do I say? I just held her and rocked her while fighting back my own tears and tried to keep my composure. Its hard being the adult sometimes. I told her to try and think of something else and have happy thoughts. We arent what I would call a really religous family but I volunteered to say a prayer. I just wanted to comfort her, to take away all the pain in the world and to let her be an innocent little child who only worried about how long she could play outside or what her snack would be if she ate all her dinner. Death is for adults. I just dont do death so this was a super hard parenting obstacle for me.